Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Narcissists - Borderline Psychopaths and Code Pendants - Mutual Mommy and Daddy Issues


Healthy people don’t tolerate abuse and call it love. Healthy people don’t want to have relationships with children in adult bodies. Healthy people don’t tolerate being manipulated and exploited and think it’s okay or normal. Healthy people don’t stay in relationships out of fear, obligation and guilt. Codependent people do.

http://shrink4men.com/2016/07/07/narcissists-borderlines-psychopaths-and-codependents-mutual-mommy-and-daddy-issues/

Narcissists - Borderline Psychopaths and Code Pendants - Mutual Mommy and Daddy Issues


Healthy people don’t tolerate abuse and call it love. Healthy people don’t want to have relationships with children in adult bodies. Healthy people don’t tolerate being manipulated and exploited and think it’s okay or normal. Healthy people don’t stay in relationships out of fear, obligation and guilt. Codependent people do.

http://shrink4men.com/2016/07/07/narcissists-borderlines-psychopaths-and-codependents-mutual-mommy-and-daddy-issues/

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Secrets

At the age of 14 I became a Motherless Daughter. In 1980 I married. In 1999 I divorced. In 2001 after being in relationship with a so called "well to do" man of society for 6 months he attempted to kill me after finding out I knew that he was committing fraud. To hide and survive I moved into a woman's shelter. It was while living in the women's shelter that my daughter handed me a book called Motherless Daughters written by Hope Edelman. 

14 years later I was privileged to attend a Motherless Daughter's conference in L.A. One of the amazingly courageous inspiring woman, brilliant author Cheryl Strayed (author of Wild) and inspiring speaker was Cheryl Strayed. Below is a snippet of her show called Sugar and a very vulnerable topic: Secrets. My life is my story and in 2017 I will  also be releasing my first book.

SECRETS
Every family has its secrets, but it's how those secrets are dealt with that determines the power they hold.
In Part 1, the Sugars consider the implications of keeping a secret within a family system. They take a letter from a woman who, since her early teens, has kept a dark and powerful secret from her mother about her stepfather.
The Sugars are joined by the writer Kathryn Harrison, who, in her memoir "The Kiss," dared to share a family secret that nearly destroyed her. Harrison recently published a collection of essays, "True Crimes: A Family Album," that explores the broader issues of this series: family secrets held and revealed.
http://www.wbur.org/dearsugar/2016/06/24/dear-sugar-episode-fifty-nine

Saturday, May 21, 2016

Patterns can be changed but only when We are ready to recognize change

Patterns can be changes but only when we are ready to recognize they are our patterns and we want to change.

So grateful to be a member of Canadian Yoga Alliance and to be featured in the spring issue of Canadian Yogi. It is a honour. Hearfelt gratitude to and for Sandra Sammartino for all the love and support, teaching and mentoring over the many years that I have the privilege of studying and continue learning yoga more and more …
http://www.canadianyogi.com/the-courage-to-be.html

Friday, May 20, 2016

No such thing

There is no such thing as a bad Pattern. It is simply a structure and when you find out what the Pattern is designed to do then YOU can learn how to use it!!! Do you know your Patterns? 
~ Collitalks

Thursday, May 19, 2016

How Do We Change Problematic Patterns

How do we change problematic patterns? The principle is to replace the problematic patterns with healthy patterns. Why replace instead of clear them? Because the patterns of the consciousness are an indispensible part of the consciousness: the consciousness functions through them. It is not within the law of life for a human being to function without patterns.
Some people believe that, because problematic patterns are the fundamental causes of problems in life, clearing problematic patterns will be the way to deal with problems. The idea of ‘letting go’ is based on this belief, and for some people letting go of all unhealthy patterns or conditioning becomes the goal to achieve. How do you get rid of a pattern just like that? After much effort and many attempts, you would probably find that letting go is not easy at all. You want to let go of emotion or thinking or reacting in a certain way. However, each time you are in the same situation, you are thinking and reacting exactly the same way again and again. Why is this? 

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Why Change Patterns That Are Not Working


If patterns are behind every thought that we have, every decision that we make and every action that we take, then they must also be behind every problem that we have. In fact, we can say that problematic patterns are the main source of the problems we have. Therefore, to clear problems, patterns must be changed. Ready for change?